Monday, July 26, 2010

Family, friends and writing

I always find it interesting when the subject of my writing comes up. So many are impressed I get paid for freelance work. I don't find that impressive. But what really is interesting are the comments I get when someone finds out I write fiction.

I always get the question, "So, do you have an editor yet?" My reply, "Um, no. I need an agent first." *weird look like I'm crazy*


"How's the book going?" Me: "Which one?" Them: "You have more than one?" Me: "Uh, yeah."

At this point I have to decide if I will tell them about the newest book. Is it worth it? I'm thinking not.

I went to a baby shower yesterday and was around a lot of family. Found out my favorite cousin has written two books over the summer. So when I told her mom that I was writing too her first question was, "Are you published?" A common question, to which I always reply, "Not yet." I used to explain the steps to getting published but after watching eyes glaze over, I stopped.

My mother, on the other hand, wants nothing to do with my writing. Her only question is, "You aren't putting sex in those books, are you?" I figure one day she'll walk into a bookstore and see my book, buy it and find the sexual stuff. I hope to see her face when she does.

So many people are well-meaning. I've been told the sites I can go to that will publish my book for me. I've also been given the names of small publishing houses to send my book to. I've been told how many agents JK Rowling, Stephanie Meyer, Stephen King and the dude who wrote, Zen and the Art of Motorcycles queried. And I appreciate all of it, dearly.

The fact is I'm taking my time. Researching agents, querying in small batches and writing more while I wait. I'm positive one of the books I write will snag an agent. And I know that it will happen when it's supposed to happen. I'm sure about that. Once that happens there will be deadlines to meet and I will no longer be able to be laissez-faire about my writing. It will become a job. I look forward to those days but am able to rest in the present and enjoy the journey. I also live vicariously through my friends. (I can't wait to go to the bookstores next year and place my friends' books in prominent places ;)

Through it all my husband has been very supportive. I don't know what I would do without him. I also have my group of writers that I can chat with. They have kept me going. This is important: having someone in your corner throughout it all, someone who understands. That is perhaps the biggest piece of advice I can give. If you need someone I suggest looking at Absolute Write or one of the other writer's forums. It's the best thing I ever did as far as my writing is concerned.


  1. Lol! I've had those same reactions from friends and family when I discuss my writing. Especially the glazed eyes if I give more than a one to two word answer. But everyone means well. They just don't get it.

    Maybe one day we'll be able to answer with 'YES!' when they ask if we're published!

  2. I've also experienced similar reactions in relation to my novels/writing, it's part of the process I suppose.

  3. Today I had my aunt want the entire story of how a book gets a publisher. She listened to the abbreviated version and her eyes didn't glaze over at all :)

  4. That's why I don't tell family that I'm a writer. A few months ago my mom, grandpa, and I were out walking and my mom and I were talking about our books. My grandpa goes "Why don't you publish one of those books? Make some money." I offered to explain to him exactly how publishing works.

  5. People who don't write and query will not understand. Years ago only a handful of people knew I wrote, because I didn't want any unsolicited advice or questions. Today I'm more open about it, but I'm still careful about who I tell what to.


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